I was in a relationship with a man whose every word either offended me or hurt my heart. Unfortunately, the pain was also a source of curiosity. Why am I so offended? I know this is not about me, so what have I not addressed in myself that I feel this primal need to defend myself? The curiosity continued. Then, there was a moment he was “telling me about myself” and I had an epiphany. Oh! This is yoga! If I sit here in the discomfort and watch how I want to react but don’t, I can let him have his say and he will have no power to affect me unless I choose to react.
I realized all my hours on the mat had indeed prepared me for this moment.
I think there are a lot of times we are unable to react in the ways that we want to. Times at work or with family that we can’t just have our say and that can help keep the peace but I believe it’s very important to notice how you feel. Take notice of how you are being affected by the situation. What is it that makes you want to react that way? Do you feel powerless, ignored, not heard or offended? Is it your ego that is offended? Is there a threat to who you think yourself to be or who you are trying to project yourself to be?
When you are able to be a witness to the inner reactions and not act out, unless needed of course, then you have started to cultivate the true meaning of the word yoga to “yoke”. To bring together. To unify the feelings in your heart, to the thoughts in your head, to the words that may or may not come out of your mouth.