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The word yoga means to yoke to bring together.  So it’s fitting to look at bringing yoga and the black community together.  When I talk about yoga to those who don’t practice I always hear the same things.  Oh, I can’t do yoga.  Isn’t it hard?  But I’m not flexible.  Do I have to chant om?  I can’t be in class with those skinny girls.  Is it a religion?  And this is just from “white people”.  So I asked my yoga trainees of color, how can we break down the stereotypes of yoga for communities of color?  How can we make yoga more inviting and less intimidating?  I hear others in the yoga community talk of making yoga more affordable to people of color and I think now that’s stereotypical.  To assume just because of the color of someone’s skin that they don’t have money?  So, if they are Jewish we should charge them more?  Everyone needs a break now and then but it shouldn’t depend on the color of their skin.

I appreciate the #yoga5BLM and all the Caucasians standing up for people of color and yes we DO need to raise our voices.  It HAS gone on too long.  It IS injustice.  But, I have to ask, who among you has a black friend?  Who among you have reached out to your black co-worker to find out “how are you with all this?”  Does your child have black friends?   Maybe their aren’t many people of color in your area but if there are, are you really reaching out where you can?  Are you really there to emotionally support those you know of color?  Have you really been a true neighbor?  Have you asked, do you need anything?  Because, until we are together as friends and neighbors this #yoga4BLM is only a moment. Where those people posting slick Instagram images get to feel powerful for standing up for something, which is great don’t get me wrong, but back it up.  Put some muscle into it.  Don’t let it just be the statement of 2020, the post on your feed, that time period when…  Let your commitment be real.   Take a virtual class from Afro Flow Yoga™, or somewhere else that looks interesting, start making friends and neighbors of color, for now and all the days to come and your life will be much much fuller.

 

– YvesMathurinPhotography

Have you ever heard that you should cut your hair on the New Moon? Well, the idea is that as the moon grows so does your hair. So cutting it at the appropriate time can make or break your lovely locks. Check out more info here.

This applies to your New Year’s resolutions as well. You see, we spend all this time gearing up for the holidays only to counteract them with resolution for January 1st to do things differently like eat better, quite sugar, workout more, start yoga, stop drinking, and start saving more money. But whatever the resolution, we usually fail by Martin Luther King Jr. Day and then we say to ourselves I HAD a dream.

The timing for New Year’s resolutions is simply wrong. Just like the phases of the moon we need to work with the phases of the calendar. December 21st is the shortest day of the year and September 21st is the Fall Equinox. So somewhere between September 21st Fall Equinox and December 21st we should have contemplated and established what we would really like to change in our lives and make our resolutions on December 21st so our resolve can grow with the days ahead.

Another thing we should do to help our resolutions stick is to ask if we are really ready for things to be different. Sometimes we only say we want them to change but we don’t really want life to be different. We are too comfortable doing what we’ve always done.  We’re used to it. We understand this misery. We don’t want to rock the boat and bring up the fear of actually being happy and fulfilled. We don’t want to try to change and find out we failed again and we are back where we started. Better to not even try than to risk failure. I mean you’ve done this resolution thing enough times to know it doesn’t work, right?.

But have you really?

When was the last time you took action on making a change? When was the last time you wrote about what you like and dislike about your life and how you experience it? When was the last time to really took an honest look at how you are contributing to the things you don’t like in your life? Or made a commitment to yourself, God, and people who can hold you accountable; that you will do whatever is necessary to make things different.

The hero story is all around us. She goes out into the world wanting to fulfill her dreams and passions. But along the way there are battles, struggles, fear, loss, dark places, death, and enemies ready to take her down. It doesn’t come easy. Then, when she has had enough, she finds her resolve, her commitment to find a way no matter what, and the courage within to change. She begins to prevail. Slowly things shift. Changes start happening in her life one day at a time and she celebrates them. She starts to see the little achievements and daily wins that will bring her to her rightful place in the world and she is grateful. Then when time passes, she looks back and realizes she is fulfilling her passion, being of service, enjoying lots of love in her life, and, of course, making lots of money.

So honestly, until you are ready to get down in the mud and use it to bring you to a better place, start making some serious commitments and set a date that works with the solar system nothing will really change. What are you ready to do?

“The lotus is the most beautiful flower, whose petals open one by one. But it will only grow in the mud. In order to grow and gain wisdom, first you must have the mud–the obstacles of life and its suffering. . . . The mud speaks of the common ground that humans share, no matter what our stations in life. . . . Whether we have it all or we have nothing, we are all faced with the same obstacles: sadness, loss, illness, dying, and death. If we are to strive as human beings to gain more wisdom, more kindness, and more compassion, we must have the intention to grow as a lotus and open each petal one by one.” 
Goldie Hawn

Fall Back to School

August 8, 2018

Sarajean assist.jpgSeptember is back to school month.  That means a lot of changes.  Different schedules have to be put in place, more traffic and cars are on the road and that time we had to play, take a day trip or go to the movies is scheduled with activities, homework and the onset of the holidays.  So how can you keep the easy spirit of summer and carve out time for yourself as your whole life changes tempo?

Well, it’s not just kids that have to go back to school.  Us adults could you use the education as well.   One of the best ways to keep your mental acuities is to keep learning, studying and growing your knowledge in ways that interest you and broaden your horizons.

Where can you find a class or workshop on various subjects that doesn’t cost a mortgage?  The first place to look is actually not you tube or the internet but your town.  Many towns have a park and recreation department that provide various classes ranging from foreign languages, computers, cooking, art and even exercise classes.  As we age it can get harder and harder to meet people and create connections and companions around activities that interest us.  We can get isolated and the internet won’t help break through loneliness.  That’s why when you engage in your community you can meet people who have similar interests and are close by therefore after the course is over you could meet up for lunch or coffee.

Also you may want to branch out to your local community college.  They generally have lots of classes that pertain to personal development that won’t end up in a degree, unless you want that of course.  There are arts annexes and organizations that hold classes in painting, photography, sculpture, writing mixed media etc.  You can check museums or science centers that may be having lectures or workshops in conjunction with specific exhibits.  You can even look at your local yoga studio for classes or workshops in yoga, meditation, essential oils and to make a bigger commitment you can enroll in a 200hr yoga teacher training even if you already know you may not want to teach.

Sure we may have to do additional education for our job to keep up with trends but it is also important to find new things to learn that peak your interests and help you become a well rounded human being and a fountain of information.  Then when the details of what we’ve learned have faded into the background we will still have good friends with similar interests.  And that can last a lifetime.

 

For more information on workshops and teacher trainings with Justine at Fuller Yoga in either Glastonbury  or West Hartford please visit www.fulleryoga.com

Meditation…

July 22, 2018

2008-05-20 16.29.18Have you ever thought about your thoughts?  Have you ever thought about how your thoughts make you feel?  Often times it’s our thoughts that stimulate our feelings.  If you think about how someone disappointed you, you may feel sad or upset, however if you think about the person who helped you move something or watched your children while you ran an errand or some other good deed, then you may feel a sense of love and connection.  So it’s evident our thoughts have a lot to do with our feelings.  This week let’s take a minute to examine our thoughts.  Are they mostly positive or negative?  Do they leave you feeling good or bad?

It may seem weird to examine your thoughts but you will find that you gain clarity and peace of mind when you are more in control of what you are thinking.  Here’s an exercise you to help.  On a blank piece of paper draw a line down the center to make two columns.  Use the left hand column write down your “negative” thoughts then on the right hand column write a list of your “positive” thoughts. Your positive column may be small but notice how you feel when you think about those thoughts.

Now that you have separated your positive and negative thoughts you will begin to notice them more and more.  In fact carry your list with you throughout the day so you can add to it on either side.  Then at the end of the day cut your list in half lengthwise so the columns are separate and burn the negative side so all you have left is the positive side.  Then take the positive side and place it in a prominent place in your home or workplace.  Repeat the exercise everyday for 5 days.  You will end up with 5 positive lists.  Try not to repeat anything on the lists.  Now for the next two days keep reading your positive lists and let the good feelings affect your attitude, your relationships, and your connection to Universal Source Energy and all things good and beautiful.

 

Live Simply and Wisely,

Justine

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#1 Fundamental Fear

October 20, 2013

Fingers of the UniverseWhat if who I am isn’t who I need to be to get what I want?  This belief, that at the core of my being I am flawed and my hopes and dreams are unattainable because I do not posses the qualities of those people who get what they want and do live their dreams.  I’ve come down with a case (yet again) of magical thinking. That there is some sort of way to be which is outside myself, or way to do things which is not like mine that I need to adhere to and morph myself into being because who I am just isn’t the right person to have what I so deeply desire.  I haven’t had the right education, I don’t have the right people around me, I don’t think the right way to create abundance, I didn’t have the right upbringing etc. etc. .  I suppose this is how many enslaved people must have felt. That no matter how strong their desire is the constructs of society and things outside of themselves will keep them in forever yearning.  This must be purgatory. This is torture.  What if it’s true and my whole life is for nothing but to be in a constant state of unrequited love if you will?  So then I remember this is a thought.  It’s just a thought.  A very powerful one but still just a thought.  I think of all the uneducated non-business degree people who have achieved their dreams. Colonel SandersOprah Winfrey (grew up poor), Lady Gaga (dropped out of college), Rosalie Mera (dropped out of school at 11 to become a seamstress).

On the other hand I say “Why would God be so cruel to insight such desire within me only to keep me from it because I lack the mental acuity or perspective to reach my goal?”    I do some Byron Katie 4 questions on it and I say to myself, “What if who I am is exactly who I need to be to get what I want?”  And for a moment there is relief, space and ease.  I relax and let myself be ok with who I am, the education I have received, the people I’m around and the things I want out of life if only for a moment this is enough.  Besides I’m not dead yet so there is still a chance.

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