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As much as we all need time off I have to admit a day of non-scheduled time makes me anxious. It’s like a kid in a candy store there are so many tasks to choose from I can’t decide which one to do and I end up not getting anything done. I check my phone 10,000 times to see if there’s something I’m missing, something I SHOULD be doing. But nothing pressing shows up. The last time this happened I realized I should of made a list or at least planned out my day. Structure and order keep us from going off the deep end and yet too much of the same makes us stir crazy too. As we know, we just had a year of it.

In the past it used to get so bad I would sit on the couch and just stare at nothing, not even the T.V.. I was paralyzed and had such a feeling of dread that something bad was going to happen. Opening my own business was helpful as of course there is always something to do. Sometimes not things I want to do but I could fall back on the monotonous tasks if I wanted. Then it was more procrastination and not a deer in the headlights type of feeling.

A recent phone call to my mother (always good to get advice from those who have lived more than you) reminded me that she always had a job jar. That’s a jar of little papers that have a job listed on each one. Then when it’s time to get something done all you have to do is pick a job. It reduces the stress of the decision making.

It’s easy to be busy. To fill up your days with so much work and to do’s and appointments that you don’t have time to just be. Which can be very scary at times. From now on I will make a plan but not plan too much, take a break but not for too long and move my body so I can find time for rest.

You may be thinking geesh, that’s a silly question, of course I am!
But really, how many times do you push gifts away and say, “I can’t take that”, “you shouldn’t have”, or worse, reject compliments by saying, “you don’t mean that”, “that’s what you say to everyone”, “stop lying”. If this sounds familiar to you then it’s time to love yourself more. And that is no easy task.
We may have received messages from our family, friends, culture or religion that we are not worthy of love. That we are innately flawed and that we need to do more, and be more, in order to be loved. That we must fit in a tight mold in order to be loved. That love must come from accolades outside of us or from other people. This belief is destroying us. It’s destroying our relationships, communities and our families. People in our life want to love us, but if we don’t love ourselves we will reject their expressions of love (i.e. gifts, adoration, kindness, wanting to spend time with you, etc.) and they end up feeling hurt and rejected.
The mere fact that you exist means you are loved, and we simply must practice deeply loving ourselves. That doesn’t just mean booking a massage in the middle of the day. It means looking at how we treat ourselves. It means looking at the quality of our self talk. It means looking at our reactions. It means looking at our habits or addictions, whether they be eating, drinking, exercise, or work. It means looking at why we push good away, why we can’t take in a compliment.
It’s so easy to be critical of ourselves or others and becomes downright habitual. When was the last time you challenged your thoughts or beliefs?
Why do I feel unworthy of that? Why can’t I just say thank you to a compliment? Why do I believe I don’t deserve………..? Why do I think they deserve it more than me? Why am I jealous they got it?
So this Valentine’s Day let’s focus on loving ourselves profoundly by trying some of the following;

  • Write a list of all the things you don’t like about yourself. Then on the same paper write a list of the things you do like about yourself. Which list is longer? How would you feel if this is what a friend that you loved and cherished list looked like? You might feel compassion, love, empathy. Can you feel that way towards yourself?
  • Write down the messages you received throughout your life that contributed to the belief you are not good enough to be loved. Were they subtle or direct? Subtle would be listening to your mother body shaming herself. Direct would be listening to her body shaming you.
  • Spend some time doing eye gazing with yourself. Find a place you can feel comfortable and begin to look at yourself in the mirror and watch what messages or thoughts arise. You can even write them down. Then look at yourself as if you are looking into the eyes of your younger self. What are the messages that arise now?
  • I would even encourage you to do some of these items in tandem with someone else. Find a friend who will do them as well and share what you’ve discovered.

I wouldn’t tell you any of this if I haven’t done it myself. Loving yourself is not an easy road, but if you are truly committed to wanting better communication, better relationships and feeling more grounded in your life, I highly recommend it.

Pain can play a BIG ROLE in your life. More than you even know. Pain affects your physical health, your mental health, and your relationships. It can also reduce the amount of enjoyment you get out of life.


Pain can show up once in a while, or it can be a sharp shooting pain that comes out of nowhere, or it can be a dull ache or a chronic mind numbing, “I can’t think of anything else!” pain.  

Pain doesn’t just live in the body. Pain can make you cranky and short tempered. You may find yourself angry or irritated when your loved ones ask, “do you know where the toothpaste is?”


When you have constant pain it can take over your whole life, your relationships and your ability to work. When the body is in pain it is a messenger that something is wrong or misaligned. It is an alarm, a warning signal. It can be from years of neglect, mis-alignment, an old injury, or a position that we take for long periods of time such as sitting.


At Fuller Yoga Pilates and Massage we know about pain. We know about chronic pain. We have lived with pain. We have worked diligently using yoga, Pilates and other modalities to reduce, eliminate and learn what steps to take to get out of our pain.


So have our students. Some of them come with tears in their eyes because of pain and leave seeing hope and feeling better than when they walked in. We see relief as their bodies get back into alignment, the muscles start working properly again and they learn which bad posture habits got them there. We’ve seen how high quality yoga and Pilates can make a huge difference in relieving pain.


When the pain starts to dissipate and we can breathe again, we no longer hesitate with the anticipation of pain when reaching for something or getting out of bed. We can smile again and more importantly we can get our life back and be with our loved ones in a much more loving way.
Although yoga and Pilates are not a cure all we know that whether you have neck pain, shoulder pain, back pain or hip pain, creating better posture and alignment, strength and structure through the bones, muscles joints can make a big difference in alleviating pain in the body and we’d love to help.


Book a private today either in person or via Zoom for 20% off your first session. Call 860-430-9642 or email hello@fulleryoga.com to reserve an appointment.

Here in the Western world we think the purpose of yoga is to become flexible, stretch our bodies, tighten our cores, get a yoga butt and if we’re lucky maybe even reduce stress.  But, the truth is…that’s all wrong!  Although these are the positive-side benefits of a yoga practice, they are far from the true purpose of yoga postures.

You see, the true purpose of a yoga pose is to create an environment in which we experience sensation.  In this case, physical sensation.  By doing so, we can then observe how we react around that sensation.  What is our approach to that sensation?  Do we get angry, feel like giving up, start giving the teacher the evil eye?  To be aware of our responses to sensation means we can open the door to being able to make choices.  Because we become aware, we can take that moment to decide how we want to react, or if we want to react at all.

Now, how is this relevant to daily life you might ask?  Well, when your kid is screaming at the top of his/her lungs, and you notice your body begin to tighten up, with the practice you’ve put in on your yoga mat, you can then have a choice on how you want to react.  Say someone at work says something demeaning and disrespectful.  Your body begins to feel hot and angry.  Upon noticing that, you can now choose how you want to handle the situation.  So then, our children and our co-workers become opportunities for us to awaken.  These gifts help free ourselves from the automatic responses that may cause more trouble than just blowing off steam.

And how can this awareness around sensation help our relationship with ourselves?  Well, when we put ourselves into a warrior II pose and begin to complain to ourselves about how weak we are, or tell ourselves we could never hold it that long, then we get the opportunity to change the self-talk to something more positive like, hey, I’m here aren’t I?  Or well, THIS is how we build endurance.  In opposition, if you are the type of person to always push too hard, you might notice yourself feeling the burn in warrior II and your first response would be to go deeper than everyone else, stay longer than everyone else.  Around this awareness you may choose to give yourself a break, do something differently, or even back off a bit and avoid injury. This can lead to real self-care and compassion.

The ancient philosophers knew “Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.”  All the external things in the world won’t bring you lasting happiness, but having the consciousness to choose your thoughts and actions… well, it just might get us close.

I’ve been hearing it from the teachers at the studio.  They feel lost.  Not sure what to do.  How to plan their lives.  With 5 yoga/Pilates studios closed since this all began the reality is sinking in.  But here at Fuller Yoga, we are hopeful.  We just purchased more Pilates Reformers so we can have the most comprehensive workouts available to those of you who want to come in.  And with only be 3 people per class and plenty of social distancing it’s the perfect way to stay in shape and out of pain.  We have a select number of classes on our schedule for you to come into the studio so you can get a change of scenery and a little sacred space.  We are social distancing, cleaning, wearing masks and since everyone will 6ft apart you are not required to wear them during yoga.  Not only that, we have Courtyard Yoga at the back of Glen Lochen every Friday night at 5:30pm which is incredibly lovely with the warm weather, shade and just enough breeze to cool you off.

But wait!  I told you that there was one thing you needed to do to not feel SO LOST.  So what is it?

Consistency!  Now is the time to nail down that committed time to join a yoga, Pilates or barre class. Fire up your laptop and take a Zoom class with us.  Pick your days Tuesdays and Thursdays at 9:30am?  or will it be Monday at Wednesdays at 6pm?  We even have Monday and Fridays at 11am.  Whatever time works for you, put it in your schedule, RIGHT NOW!  Here’s the link.  https://fulleryoga.com/schedule/  I mean it do it now otherwise you, like most of us, you will put it off.  Although we do have an on demand library of videos I still believe that holding yourself responsible for showing up every week is exactly what we all need to feel grounded and not lost in the sauce.  Turn off the news and turn on your intuition.  Start identifying what you like, what you really want and what makes your heart sing.  Put the classes in your schedule, don’t cheat yourself and commit to the gift of loving yourself with a consistent yoga and Pilates practice.  I mean it do it TODAY!

Thank you to our dedicated teachers and loyal students!

In the era of Coronavirus who knows what the answers are?  Here in Connecticut our Governor Ned Lamont is telling us that gym/studios can open as of June 17th.  However, we must be 6 ft apart and wear masks.  Or, we can be 12 ft apart and not wear masks.  I prefer no masks.

So, that leaves us with a max capacity of 5 students to a class and a whole lot of cleaning to do.  And, since we have been financially impacted I have to ask, will it help pay the rent?  Currently, we have 20 classes online and most folks are feeling pretty safe with that.  Plus, we are putting together a video library for students who can’t make the live classes.  Not to mention the warnings about the cases getting worse in the Fall.

No one wants to have to think about all these things.  I’m exhausted.  My brain is exhausted.  I’ve made more decisions in the last 3 months than the last 3 years!  As I hear of yoga studios closing due to Covid-19 I don’t want us to be one of them.  How long will we have to socially distance?  Can we  sustain financially month after month after month?  We want to stay in business!  We want (when it’s safe to come out) to have a sanctuary, a place to process, space to decompress and restore our bodies and minds.  We want our community to re-connect with the people they have bonded with over the last 9 years.  That will be our path to healing.  And, in years to come we can say, “do you remember when…….” and the new students at Fuller Yoga will say, “what was that like?”

Since we have the green light to open here is our solution.  Students can book private and semi-private classes from 1-5 people for you, your family or friends either in the studio, outdoors or via zoom.  We will open some group classes limited to 5 people and specialty classes will slowly come back on the schedule.  And our favorite new class will be Courtyard Yoga, a donation based class every Friday night at 5:30 pm starting July 3rd weather permitting.  Look out for free Intro to Yoga classes as well as fun workshops online and outdoors throughout the summer.

We’ll get through this, together.

You’ve probably never thought of it before now, but Thank You is a powerful statement. It says, I see you, I appreciate you, I am receiving what you are giving, I acknowledge you. And, I don’t know any better time to keep saying thank  you, than right now. I know for me when our students say thank you after a class, it says my time and instruction was valuable. It keeps me going to knowing I’m making a difference and that me being here matters.

Think about all the essential workers you come into contact with every week. Basically, taking the risk of contracting COVID-19, just to make (for some) minimum wage. Your grocery store cashier, ups driver, mail person, the pet store re-stocker,the person handing you your takeout and anyone else who is working.

Make a difference, take the time to say Thank You, to everyone you come into contact with. Even your own family and your pets. They understand. This is hard on everyone, so give a thank you.  give yourself a thank you and keep putting one foot in front of the other. Humanity is strong. You’ve got this.

THANK YOU!

We are here!  We are working and we are thinking of you!

Now what can you give mom or any special woman in your life that is thoughtful, under $40 and support local businesses looking to survive COVID-19?  The instructors and I have a few simple items that say “I’m thinking of you Mom.”

Here you go.  We hope something calls to you.

DIY Semi-Precious Stone Bracelet Kit

Now is the perfect time for a little DIY.  Easily make wonderful bracelets with your mom, sister, daughter or friends through zoom if you don’t live together.  A fun thing to do together or by yourself to make something lovely and meaningful.  Beading is super relaxing and a great way to take your mind off things for a while.  Each kit includes semi-precious stone beads (your choice of color), string, clasps, and good juju from Melissa to create your own beautiful and unique bracelet just for you.

These are a perfect gift to make for yourself, someone else or purchase as a gift for another.

$35.00 Includes Free Shipping!

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*When making your Pay Pal payment please let me know if you have any bead color preference or any kind of vibes you’re looking to manifest into your life!

 

Lavender Eye Pillows

Great for women, men and children!  These lavender eye pillows are perfect for relieving headaches, tension, migraines, puffy eyes, and sinus pressure.  They can be used during meditation, final relaxation after yoga, during yoga nidra or anytime you just need a break from the computer or life in general.  These eye pillows can be used for hot or cold therapy. Use hot if you need relaxation, have sore muscles, or abdominal pain.  Serve chilled if you have an injury, migraine, headache, puffy eyes or to reduce swelling anywhere.  Using only organic lavender and high quality handmade durable silk you will want to take it where ever you go.

#30 Includes Free Shipping

Colors available purple, turquoise, blue and pink.

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When making your PayPal payment let me know what color eye pillow you’d like.

 

Energy Clearing Kit

This energy clearing kit is a beautiful bundle of palo santo and selenite, wrapped with an organic dried rose.  This set is great for energetically clearing spaces, meditation rituals and decorating your space.

-Palo Santo is good for clearing negative and stagnant energy while sealing in positive energies.

-Selenite is cleansing and brings good luck and protection.

-Rose is wonderful for love and healing.

$25 Includes Free Shipping!

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For questions on any of the above products you can email

melissa@blissfulbymelissa

Wow, the internet has exploded with offerings of online classes.  There are fitness classes, meditation classes, yoga classes, cooking classes and any other thing you might want to learn about. With so much out there, how do you choose?
Well, we now know money is powerful. Our purchases make a big impact on businesses big and small and it’s important to ask yourself who you want to support.  With so many people flocking online with their offerings, you might encounter some shoddy stuff.  So, I’ve created a few ways for you to think about looking for online yoga and Pilates classes.
  1. Do they have a brick and mortar location? These establishments definitely need your support. Hosting online classes without overhead is hugely profitable, so the expenses might be low and if you are paying for classes you may want to support a studio with an actual location. Your dollar will mean a lot more. Plus, when we can return to going into public places you will be able to meet the teacher and the people you’ve been practicing with.
  2. Do they offer your level? Does the online offering have the level that fits you? Do they have enough offerings that you won’t have to jump from website to website to find what you are looking for?
  3. Do they get to know you? If you are taking a free class or sign up for a yoga video subscription service, can the instructors really get to know you and your issues? What if there is an ongoing injury and some postures should be avoided? Only with a qualified instructor who gets to know you and interact with you, will be the most help.
  4. Do they charge? That’s not a bad thing. Studios who have online classes who charge will be invested in your experience and will want to keep you as a customer. The other thing you can look for is if they are charitable. Does your money to them support others as well?
  5. Will they let you try it for free? Since classes are online, you won’t be taking up the spot of a paying student. So see if they will allow you to take a complimentary class before you commit financially.
Use your power wisely. Consider what is really important to you in your practice or if you are just starting out. Then invest the time to investigate to find the right fit. You, your body and your mental health are worth it.

Having a place of sanctuary right now is pretty key.  We are in the midst of the COVID-19 Pandemic, and yoga studios are closed, kids are home from school, and no one can sit down at restaurants.  So how do we find a place to calm our minds, tell ourselves it will be o.k. or even cry some tears when it all feels overwhelming?  We create; that’s what we do!

  1. First thing you have to do is CLEAN!  Before diving into your practice or workout take time to sweep, mop, dust the shelves, open the windows and let some fresh air in.  Cleaning your space is just as important as the practice itself.  It will help you know what the space is specifically for and keep you focused on just that.
  2. ORGANIZE!  Pick up any clutter.  Place books, magazines, pillows and blankets into cabinets or neat piles that look put together and don’t disturb your eyes.  This way there will be less distractions both visually and mentally thinking I really should put those away.
  3. Find MEANING!  Find a direction to face that feels right.  Maybe the floor slants or the sun comes in a particular way and you feel better facing one direction vs. another creating a focal point.  Then at the top of your mat, make it SACRED!  Place pictures, memories, rocks, candles, dolls, flowers.  Use anything that helps you feel at peace, evokes love, gives you joy, or helps you feel grounded.
  4. Have what you NEED!  You may end up doing yoga and other activities that require props and equipment.  So make sure you have your blocks, blankets, bolster, strap, yoga mat, weights, Pilates ring, theraband, and maybe a ball.  The last thing you want to do is waste time trying to find something in the middle of your practice/workout.
  5. RITUALIZE! Before starting your activity, do something that will give you a boundary, a ritual that you do each and every time.  Say a Mantra or prayer.  Put up a sign, “Do Not Disturb.” Close the door, and draw a line on the floor “Do not cross until practice is over!”  Find a way to put up a boundary around your practice so you can keep distractions at bay.

Home practices present a multitude of challenges that your local studio has eliminated for you.  So now that we have to spend some serious time at home we should make the best of it and see if we can vibe up our space until we can get back to the studios.  But until then…..Om is where the heart is.

 

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