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Fall Back to School

August 8, 2018

Sarajean assist.jpgSeptember is back to school month.  That means a lot of changes.  Different schedules have to be put in place, more traffic and cars are on the road and that time we had to play, take a day trip or go to the movies is scheduled with activities, homework and the onset of the holidays.  So how can you keep the easy spirit of summer and carve out time for yourself as your whole life changes tempo?

Well, it’s not just kids that have to go back to school.  Us adults could you use the education as well.   One of the best ways to keep your mental acuities is to keep learning, studying and growing your knowledge in ways that interest you and broaden your horizons.

Where can you find a class or workshop on various subjects that doesn’t cost a mortgage?  The first place to look is actually not you tube or the internet but your town.  Many towns have a park and recreation department that provide various classes ranging from foreign languages, computers, cooking, art and even exercise classes.  As we age it can get harder and harder to meet people and create connections and companions around activities that interest us.  We can get isolated and the internet won’t help break through loneliness.  That’s why when you engage in your community you can meet people who have similar interests and are close by therefore after the course is over you could meet up for lunch or coffee.

Also you may want to branch out to your local community college.  They generally have lots of classes that pertain to personal development that won’t end up in a degree, unless you want that of course.  There are arts annexes and organizations that hold classes in painting, photography, sculpture, writing mixed media etc.  You can check museums or science centers that may be having lectures or workshops in conjunction with specific exhibits.  You can even look at your local yoga studio for classes or workshops in yoga, meditation, essential oils and to make a bigger commitment you can enroll in a 200hr yoga teacher training even if you already know you may not want to teach.

Sure we may have to do additional education for our job to keep up with trends but it is also important to find new things to learn that peak your interests and help you become a well rounded human being and a fountain of information.  Then when the details of what we’ve learned have faded into the background we will still have good friends with similar interests.  And that can last a lifetime.

 

For more information on workshops and teacher trainings with Justine at Fuller Yoga in either Glastonbury  or West Hartford please visit www.fulleryoga.com

wall-yogaAs the month of Love is upon us it gets me thinking of the heart, self love and deep courage.  What makes courage, courage?

My conclusion is that courage is doing or saying the things most other people we know are not.  If they were it would be called normal not courage.  For example, if everyone were to quit their stable jobs and leave their family to go travel around the world at the age of 45 then it would be the norm, and then not going would be courageous.  But on a smaller scale if everyone had those difficult conversations that include topics like; I want to separate, or I’m deeply afraid of showing you I’m vulnerable, I love you so much it scares me, I lied to you, or I have a terminal illness and I’d like to talk about the end of my time,  then we might be a healthier more well adjusted society.

It takes real courage to get to the heart of it.  To be deeply honest with yourself and then be  that honest with those closest to you.  Your palms might sweat, you may experience shortness of breath, feel anxious and even a little nauseous, but in the face of communicating your truth these are all signs of great courage.

So how do we live the tough stuff?  Sometimes our truth may disappoint people. They may feel hurt, betrayed or thrown off their path.  Then we feel responsible and don’t want to feel that we are the cause of another persons suffering. And in the same way our truth may help another feel relieved and validated.  If we say nothing we deny ourselves the opportunity to strengthen our courage muscle the heart.  Because it is only with great strength and courage that we can even have those difficult conversations.

Here are a few things I’ve learned over the years to help get over the fear and draw on the courage that lives in you heart so the truth can set everyone free.

  1.  Spend time alone.  It’s hard to tell if we are reacting or not.  It’s easy to say I want to move to another state when your state just raised taxes yet again.  Or fantasize about a new lover when you just got into a fight with yours.  Time spent alone will help you determine what is true.  The truth doesn’t yell.  It doesn’t give the finger, or yell F. You.  The truth never says “If only…… or when I…… then……I’ll…..”  The truth is usually quiet and strong and hits you like a rock when you stubble upon it and it is best found when you are still with no distractions and by yourself.
  2. Ask yourself often, “Is this what I really want?”  You may not know what you want but you may know something is off, not quiet right.  Somewhere inside you know you haven’t met your truth just yet.  This is a good place to be because sometimes you have to know what you don’t want in order to know what you do.  Be curious.  The answer to the question; What do I want? lies also in the question; “Is this what I really want?” because it helps you focus on what is here right now in front of you and not something that has not yet been realized.
  3. Embrace the fear.  Never try to push it away or stop feeling it.  That only leads to bad things.  When your palms get sweaty embrace it.  Know that you are on the right track.  When your stomach starts to do flip flops pat yourself on the back,you are on your way to being more courageous then you ever have before.  Set a place at the table for your fear and anxiety when you are ready to have that oh so difficult yet courageous and deeply liberating discussion.  And of course remember, the truth doesn’t yell.  It doesn’t give the finger, or yell F. You.  The truth never says “If only…… or when I…… then……I’ll…..”

 

Strengthen your heart this year.  Be your own Valentine and show yourself are courageous beyond measure.  Take the risk.  Love yourself deeply enough to be true.  Tell the truth.     It might just set you free.

Breathe,

Justine

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And if we don’t have those difficult talks and maybe even arguments then we all suffer.  There’s hidden anger, sadness and resentment that can linger for years.

 

godEver since “The Secret” got the general public thinking about The Law of Attraction and other meditation techniques to help you reach your goals people have been trying to figure it out.  Well here’s the one thing you really need to know.  You are not your thoughts.  So many of us think that what we are thinking is the truth, reality, and the hard cold facts.  Nothing could be further from the truth.  The REAL Truth.

Until you can take control of your mind and thus your emotions that follow you will struggle with getting what you want.  In order to manifest your dreams you have to be very detailed, specific and feel really good when you think about getting them.  You can’t want a new house and the minute you think about having it you come up with excuses as to why it can’t be for you.  You have to love thinking about your new house, decorate it, paint it, mentally live in it.  How does it feel to live there?  Wake up there?  Park your car there?  These are the details needed to let the Universe know you mean business.

And at no time should you ever let doubt, excuses or negative thoughts enter your mind.  They are not real.  They are just thoughts passing by like people on the street.  Let them go.

How else can you get your mind to keep focusing and feeling good about what you want?  Create a Vision Board!  That way every day you get to see what it is you want and remind yourself how good it’s going to feel when you have it.  But again DON’T let your mind take over.  Your mental talk is designed to keep you safe and small for your own survival.  But we’ve grown so much since the days of real imminent danger.  It’s time to challenge your mind, challenge your thoughts and start thinking of good things.  Things that make you smile, laugh and lift you up.  In fact thank goodness for smart phones because when my mind would get negative and doubtful  all I had to do what watch some comedians on YouTube and my spirits lifted.   Don’t let your mind brood and go on and on.  Get out of that quickly, however you can.  And don’t spend too much time around others who bring your down also or don’t believe in you.  They won’t help your cause.

So go ahead and try a Vision Board, Feel what your Dreams accomplished feel like and most of all Have Fun!

If you want a more personal approach to manifesting your dreams and a little guidance send me an email at fulleryoga@gmail.com  We can set up some coaching calls, exercises and if your local we can even do some meet and greets.

Rates are flexible.

Breathe